A child’s inner life is just as rich as their parent’s; they have a wealth of experiences, emotions, and feelings. One way to get your child to cease negative behaviors is to level with them emotionally and physically. Look your child in the face, at their level, and explain the kind of behavior you would like to see. Focus on the positive, assuring them of your high expectations for them, and don’t use the word ‘don’t’, which can feel domineering to them. Instead, focus on the behavior you would like to see from them, and engage them in a more cooperative way.
- When you want to get your child to listen to you, you should only have to say what you need to say once.
- Connecting with your child by physically getting on their level is key to getting them to be attentive to your words.
- Utilize empathetic thinking patterns by trying to see the situation from your child’s perspective.
“Parents can be dismally low on their list. Not to mention that when the brain is rewiring at age six, and again at age twelve, they can feel overwhelmed by outside stimuli and tune you out. Even toddlers are very busy, since their job description is exploring and tearing your house apart.”