It can be very frustrating when your child won’t listen. Sometimes when your child disobeys, it’s just your child’s way of gleaning a small amount of power where they can get it. To offset this natural need for power, start by levelling with your child and try to understand their perspective. Positive reinforcement and gentle physical touch can go a long way in making your child feel heard. Expressing gratitude to your child in advance for their positive behavior can make your child understand the positive expectations of them, instead of focusing on the negative behavior you don’t wish to see.
- When speaking to your child, steer away from the word don’t, which can come off as overbearing and overpowering.
- Focus on what your child should do, not what they should not do, and reward the desired behavior.
- Expressing gratitude to your child can give them the positive affirmation they need to behave correctly.
“So do most parents. I’ve been a parenting educator for 15+ years and can say unequivocally that children “not listening” is the most common frustration I hear from moms and dads.”