The best way to ensure your kids listen to you is through reaching them on their own individual wavelength. It’s vital to level with your children by trying to understand their perspective, and explain your own. Contextualizing your expectations for your children will help them understand on a deeper level why you are correct, because they’ll understand the reasons behind your perspective. Giving your child choices instead of speaking orders to them will help them learn consequences and their own power in a whole new way.
- Contextualizing the positive behavior for your child will help them relate more positively to the behavior you want to see.
- Offering your child choices, instead of dictating what you want them to do, will make your child feel more empowered in the situation.
- Listening and empathizing with your child’s perspective will ensure your child feels seen and understood.
“But their inability to obey or even acknowledge my husband, Thad, and me made us feel powerless. While walking through Target one Saturday, I heard no fewer than five parents say some variation of, “If you don’t start listening, we’re walking out of this store right now!””